5 Steps to Beat Emotional Baggage
All of us have it. Whether we got it from a bad marriage, a car accident or a horrid childhood. We’re all working to get rid of it, emotional baggage. The stuff that fuels the negative self-talk. The stuff that replays old insults and prevents old wounds from healing. Some of us are still exposed to the ‘sore’ in our life that continues to inflict new wounds before the old ones have a chance to heal. All of it buries us under pain. It buries us under shame and guilt. It makes it just that much difficult to bloom, to flourish, to succeed. You don’t even realize that you aren’t free to be authentic self because your emotional meter is on ready, set, go – to battle defenses and protect your already cracked, chipped and chopped up emotions.
I’ve had 22 jobs in 12 different career fields. I’ve counseled clients between the ages of 11 and 25 for career, vocation and personal issues. There is nothing you can share with me that I haven’t already experienced myself or been exposed to through my clients. Molestation, incest, beatings/battered, robbery, fighting, murder, arson, domestic violence, abandonment, alcoholism, AIDS … and all their effects, their emotional/behavioral kinfolk such as nightmares, anxiety, denial, betrayal, hostility, fighting, aggression, contention, narcissism, depression, enablement, distrust and despair just to name a few.
In Matthew 13: 1-23 God gives us The Parable of the Sower. It explains the conditions of four types of soil – path, rocky, thorny and good. The path soil is so hard, it resist care. The rocky and the thorny both are open to receive care but only for the short term. It’s the good soil that can receive care, heal and then give a bountiful harvest in return, pouring out blessings upon the world. The good soil is what we all strive for; we fake it until we make it. Fighting back past hurts and difficulties to push the well-put-together face forward. Only, it doesn’t work. We can only pour out blessings on others if the soil in our own emotional garden is good soil. If not, we end up passing on hurt and despair to others, our children, colleagues, family and friends. You’ve heard the cliché, broken people break other people.
Here are 5 very basic steps to help you process and begin to work through your emotional baggage and begin healing:
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A former school and community agency counselor and creator of the 7-Step Method, Anita’s helped guide people from the ages of eleven to fifty through their own life issues, personal transformations and professional endeavors. With an old soul and a comedic, honest voice. She uses many southern colloquialisms and colorful expressions to unwrap personal stories of surviving a homicidal alcoholic father, a mother in denial and four physically and emotionally abusive brothers and relates them to guiding principles and healing techniques.
Through her powerful and uplifting interviews at ThatAnitaLive.TV and The Emotional Happiness Podcast women get to see and hear real women with resourceful stories living relentless lives after life's most devastating events. Through her charismatic and compelling speaking, Anita helps women use the tools and resources they already have to reveal and release success blockers such as childhood trauma and family dysfunction so they can build self-confidence, boost their self-esteem and feel free to live true to their own personality, spirit and character.
In her newly released ebook, 7 Simple Steps to Beat Emotional Baggage, Anita shares actionable techniques that will walk women through letting go of the past and rising above the glass ceiling to reach higher levels of success and satisfaction in life.
From nine-to-five, Anita is a Senior Acquisition Support Specialist, possessing over nineteen years of performing and administering program management and cradle-to-grave commercial and federal contracting activities for acquisitions ranging from $500,000 to over $2 Billion. She has progressively worked her way up the federal acquisition lifecycle and commercial supply chain through various positions from pre-award and requirements definition to commodities buying to contract close-out. In her career, she has mastered the art of transitioning to level-up.
Anita is a graduate of Limestone College, Virginia State University, and Strayer University with a B.S. in Mathematics, an M.Ed. in Guidance & Counseling, and an M.B.A. in Contracts & Acquisitions. You can find Anita online at ThatAnitaLive.com, Twitter, Periscope, Instagram and Facebook. Her handle is That Anita Live on all four social media platforms.
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